Talking to Your Loved Ones

If you are planning to change your usual holiday celebrations and rituals, talk to your family about it ahead of time and get their feedback. Explain why you want to make a change. Assure everyone that you want to emphasize the traditions that foster the greatest sense of meaning and connection, and that you don’t want to take anything away from the holiday.

You may be pleasantly surprised by who shares your concerns and enthusiasm. Some families, however, will resist any kind of change. This doesn’t mean you can’t gradually incorporate new practices into your usual rituals. Creatively planned activities and thoughtful homemade gifts will often win over cynical friends and relatives, and even the smallest changes in your routines can make you feel better about your holiday celebrations.